Going through to grow through



As we continue with life through the Covid-19 pandemic crisis which has disrupted our lives on one hand, but given us the grand opportunity to sit down and reflect while digging deeper into our existence on the other hand, I find myself swimming in a myriad of emotions.


Like many of you, I am not one to expose my issues and problems to the world, however my biggest learning from this pandemic crisis has been the opportunity to allow myself to open up to myself, exposing my problems and feelings to myself as honestly as I can. You can hold back whatever information you are not prepared to share with the world in this lifetime but the one thing you cannot get away with is lying to yourself.


As I slowly opened up my eyes this morning, I could hear the birds sing and the slight blush of the leaves from the wind blowing and somehow, I just broke down into tears as I lay in horizontal stillness dreaming, thinking, wondering and praying.


My emotions were hovering all over the place but I could not pin point whatever evoked these feelings as I lay helplessly, feeling sorry for myself. As much as I have been taught to believe that these type of emotions and negative feelings are bad should be shun out, I let them in one at a time. Interestingly and to my surprise, I have slowly but surely found a release in allowing myself to go through these feelings and grow through them as and when they come around.


Disappointment

Disappointment can be constructive

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There was a feeling of disappointment as I thought about the current state of my business, work and progress. Perhaps, due to the fact that I could not measure my progress despite how many hours I put my back into my grind, it seemed like I was grinding myself away.


It is fact that whenever expectations and positive feelings are disrupted, disappointment will come along, however experiencing, expressing and embracing disappointment can be constructive and can help strengthen our personal resilience.


As a multidisplinary creative entrepreneur who finds myself exposed to opportunities around entertainment, edutainment and connections with people, the Covid-19 pandemic along with its restrictions, cancellations and every other challenge it revealed has just as much hit me as hard as it has hit many of you. Despite the current situation, let’s keep in mind that it is not the end of the world; we are still alive and able in many ways.


My constant reminder to you and to me is that the whole world can shut down and lock down, but the world did not and cannot lock down your creative fire. Whether you choose to express it in the shower or in your garden or on the streets, you are in control of that aspect. Let yourself go through these emotions without ignoring them or ruling them out as negative and manage your disappointment without dwelling in it.


“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”


Michael Jordan


Confusion

There is direction in confusion

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Imagine if you knew every step of you journey all through to the end and everything made sense to you every day, how would you grow? How would you evolve?


There is no question that the last few months have turned out packed with a whole lot of emotions including confusion, which is a state I have been in touch with. As we go through life with its highs and lows, sometimes taking a walk in the park, talking to a friend, sitting in your garden, lying down in silence, taking a long swim or doing nothing at all is just as much a way to hear and understand and clear the underlying issue so that you can unlock the confusion.


“Should I stop or should I keep going?”


“Should I get up or should I just spend the day in bed?”


“Should I get on the next flight out or should I wait?”


“Should I stop this business or should I keep moving?”


With 100 questions racing through my mind minute-by-minute from business decisions, to lifestyle changes, to personal goals, there just seems to be so many decisions to make suddenly now amidst all that’s going on.


It may not seem likely, however with all the anxiety and stress that confusion stirs up, it is also a sign of great and powerful change. When it comes knocking on your door, acknowledge, recognise and embrace it without allowing it to persist for too long. Remember that everything you are going through is happening for a reason. Whether you can see and understand t